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Hi Cia,

When I found your daily inspiration on your website, I added it to my
"favorites" list, and have enjoyed / been enriched by the ones I have read.
I appreciate that it is a part of your site.

Today, however, the one I received said, "If some people got their rights
they would complain of being deprived of their wrongs."  This strikes me as
derogatory toward groups such as people of color / gays and lesbians, and
others who advocate for affirmative action / equal recognition.  Some, of
course, see this as "special rights..." but that didn't seem to mesh with my
interpretation of your work.

I am simply sharing this in case you did not interpret it this way & might
take it into account.

My best regards,
R


Dear Rebecca,  

Thank you for writing. I appreciate your comment and am happy for the opportunity to respond.  

I find in my work that there is such a thing as "victim mentality" and that is what that quote spoke about to me. In general I don't find people of color, gays and lesbians, and
others who advocate for affirmative action and equal recognition to be people of victim mentality as advocating for there rights is antithetical to being stuck in the victim position.  These are people who are committed to changing all that. Victim mentality is about an attachment to the victim position and has little or no relationship to whether a person has been "victimized" or not.  I have worked with people who have been victims who are suffering from victimization but who show no signs of victim mentality, if you can follow that.  It is not that I don't believe there are such things as victims and victimizers, although some people take the self-responsibility principle to that extreme.  There are.  Most of us are keenly aware of that point right now in this country.  It is whether we carry that outlook with us everywhere so that we feel victimed by an inefficient teller at the check-out line, or an error on a bill, or someone who is having a bad day and fails to be polite.  It is what we choose to focus on and hang on to by replaying the story over and over in our mind when we are truly wronged.  It is also a question of what we are on the look-out for in our life.

This is a great topic right now as we as a nation are, in effect, expecting to be victimized again.  How do we live with this?  How do we go through our lives?  With fear? With anger?  With hatred?  Or do we go through our lives with love and joy and celebration?  Is that possible?  Is it possible to believe in the highest and best good without being "Pollyannish".  Is it worth it to be self-protective, and limit our natural expansiveness?  Is it worth it to take certain risks if that is in keeping with living our lives to the fullest?  These are questions each one of us has to answer for ourselves.  

Thanks for tuning in.  May you continue to answer to the highest and best within yourself.


Cia



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